At the same place
Ever
wondered how two people of different age groups become great friends? Ever
thought why an old man falls for a young beautiful girl and she reciprocates
the same love? Ever got surprised that you connect so well with people you
least expected to do so? It is not the opposites attracting effect! Not at least
to me.
I have never believed in that
phrase, “opposites attract”! There might be an initial interest quotient due to
the amusement that derives out of the differences. There is this urge to
explore how the other person justifies his/her different state of existence. But
in the long run, getting along with people of entirely different sensibilities
might not be very easy.
I think the above mentioned
happenstances occur due to those two people being at the same place in Life. I
am not talking of the space defined by the longitudes and the latitudes. The
place we are talking about here is the mind space a person inhabits at a point
in time in Life.
When two people happen to be at the
same place in Life, there is a lot that the two can connect over. There is an effortless
understanding which comes about. There is no need to tell the other person to
think from your side. There is no need to ask them to step in your shoes. Reason
being, they are wearing almost the same size J.
People of varied backgrounds and even
age become friends at work due to the shared stress that they have to endure. Not
many people outside work might understand the kind of pressure and competition
one has to survive.
At schools and colleges, in spite of the different
family values, upbringing and even cultures at times, we find great
camaraderie. At that point, all of us are in a more of a happy go lucky phase
in our Life. So the more happy go lucky a person is in college, the more
affable, he/she turns out to be for everyone. But, post college, if the person
carries the same attitude, they are looked down up on as not being serious
enough about their lives. The reason
being, the others have moved on to another mind space in their lives.
All the self help groups might be
based on this very thought. People are under some sought of addiction and they
get together and make a collective effort to overcome that addiction. Again,
there is no one who understands their plight better than fellow addicts. The
others can only imagine how it feels like. They share exactly the same mind
space.
The same is true for the various interest
groups that people join also. There are groups where people are working towards
attaining the same goal. The fellow members understand how difficult the goal
is or how much time it demands.
In this regard,the best thing one can
hope for is for those people to happen to oneself at those instances in
Life where they share more or less the same mind space.
Arun
Babu.
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