Fight it out!
Many of us dislike Arnab Goswamy
and his TV show. For most of us, it is the high decibel shrill that evokes the
dislike. Is that all or is there something more to it? I think there is an underlying
reason too. His way of questioning! His questioning style is intended at creating
a conflict and many of us aren't comfortable with that.
Some how, there is a general notion
that any kind of conflict is bad. That is not the case. Conflicts are a part of
life and we need to accept it and very rarely do we do that. Let me elaborate.
Generally, there are two ways we respond to conflicts. Either we flare up or we
avoid it. When one flares up, then there is no room for discussion. Then there
is place only for egos. Even worse is when one avoids conflict. This means that
the discussion ends even before it begins. For
instance, the conflicts that happen at a personal level, say between two friends.
If one flares up at every conflict, the other person tend to be very cautious about
whatever he/she says and the honesty of the discussion goes out of the window. And
when one avoids conflict, it tends to get bottled up and eventually results in
a situation where one explodes and the other stands shell shocked.
Small conflicts take away the awkwardness
in a relationship. If you have noticed, it is after the first fight that people
become closer. One reason is that one knows how the other person will react in
a situation of stress - to what intensity and how long it takes one to comeback
to the normal state.This translates to a bette
What we become, is a sum total of the
interactions that we have with people, don’t you think? There is a lot of comfort
in interacting with the same kind of people as one’s own. This might explain
our preferences to look out for people coming from backgrounds similar to ours –
be it region, religion or race. There are minimal chances of conflict here. But
there is a catch here. If all through life, we have come across only one kind
of people; our thought process tends to have only one dimension to it. There is
no room for evolving one’s thoughts. If one reached out to only those people who
always agreed with one’s school of thought, one eventually tend to think that
nothing else can be true other than that school of thought.
However hard we try to avoid
conflicts, there come times in life when one has to face conflicts within.
What better way to conquer them than preparing oneself by fighting it out with
the world outside? J
Arun
Babu
It's must that you should be open in your discussions with your friends. Even if they misunderstand you, stick to your stand. You needn't be right always. Some times one is totally wrong. Once you understood that you're wrong you shall change your opinion about it. It's better than yielding yourself to new ideas without a thorough discussion.
ReplyDeletevery true sir...discussions are of prime importance..Thank you for reading
DeleteWhy do I feel I know what triggered this blog :P;)
ReplyDeleteAgree with every word... But does every conflict need to be confronted and discussed... Is it not wise to ignore some of them when u know that the discussion can only make it worse?
Do you really believe any amount of conflicts outside is going to help with the conflicts within ?:):)
he he...u feel so because you know :)...yes, at times, being silent is good...and the last question, I do not want to answer tht ;)
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