Fare thee well
Recently,
two of my dear friends from work got transferred to offices in Pune and
Bangalore. I was surprised at how sad I felt! I told them I was more sad for me
than I am happy for them J. This again amused me - the candidness
of our friendship. I could actually tell them what I exactly felt without the
need for any euphemisms.
I was being a bit selfish in not
wanting my friends to go. I was sad that I am going to miss the camaraderie that
we share, the comfort that we enjoy. But isn't that natural?
Most of us deal with farewells in
two ways. One, we think this is not the end of it all. We reason that Life is
too long for two people to not meet. We refuse to look at the large possibility
that two people might not meet at all. We think that it is impossible for two
people to not meet in today’s immensely connected world. But again, in spite of
all the connectivity, how many of our school friends have we actually met in
the last 5 years? – And pings and virtual chats don’t count! The other way is to be realistic about it. We
might not meet again, but I am glad that we did even if it was for a short
while. This is the less popular one due to obvious reasonsJ.
Of two people, there is always one
who is more affected in a farewell. I remember how painful it was to part after
spending vacations with cousins for months together. It was always the host who
felt bad the most, the ones who stayed back. Those who are going away have
things to do or they need to get accustomed to a new environment. In that hustle
bustle, head takes over heart and the ones who stay back, laments more.
But the good part of bidding adieu
is that it can do wonders to a relationship. Distance is great for perspective.
At times, we indulge ourselves to a great deal. We take people for granted.
Once they leave our side, then we realize how much of a vacuum they have left
behind. It can be the other way too. We tend to give too much prominence to
some people. We think we will be lost if they are not by our side. They go away
and then we find out that we were not that reliant after all.
Every time someone bids adieu, the greatest worry is whether we will get to meet such dear people ever again in our Lives. But
then , Life never fails to surprise us, does it?
Arun Babu
Yes distance can do wonders in relations and for me ... its not life that surprised me, but my SELF is a surprise factor, as each phase of my life unveils itself with time.- Parvathy
ReplyDeletegetting surprised by oneself is indeed an amazing feeling..
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